"But I’ll tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you’ll come to understand that you’re connected with everything."
"Everything is more complicated than you think. You only see a tenth of what is true. There are a million little strings attached to every choice you make; you can destroy your life every time you choose. But maybe you won’t know for twenty years. And you’ll never ever trace it to its source. And you only get one chance to play it out. Just try and figure out your own divorce. And they say there is no fate, but there is: it’s what you create. Even though the world goes on for eons and eons, you are here for a fraction of a fraction of a second. Most of your time is spent being dead or not yet born. But while alive, you wait in vain, wasting years, for a phone call or a letter or a look from someone or something to make it all right. And it never comes or it seems to but doesn’t really. And so you spend your time in vague regret or vaguer hope for something good to come along. Something to make you feel connected, to make you feel whole, to make you feel loved."
"It’s such a massive double edged sword. It makes no sense to me, and that’s why I’m so outspoken about my sexuality. I think that women are entitled to sexual pleasure. I don’t understand what is wrong with it. It’s something that’s good, and it makes you feel positive and happy and relieved. It’s so funny because I watch these entertainment shows and they’re talking about how Lindsay Lohan dates another man and she’s a whore or whatever… and a million other women. They lay into these girls because they’re actually having a good time and being open about it. Then they do a report on George Clooney, who’s a ‘playboy’ and looked up to by everybody and how sexy he is, and how he can date all these women and he’ll never get married. It makes me want to vomit."
"Ask ten adults to define a slut and you’ll hear things like: a woman who has sex with lots of men; a woman who sleeps around; a woman who has casual sex; a woman who flaunts her body. They’ll probably also use words like loose, easy, trashy, cheap, and desperate. Someone might say: a woman who has the sexual appetites of a man. No one will say: a mythical creature dreamt up by people who are jealous of or threatened by female sexual expression."
"Sometimes I wonder, will God ever forgive us for what we’ve done to each other? Then I look around and I realize, God left this place a long time ago."
"Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex. They keep people from having good sex. They keep people from having pride in their sexuality, from sexual self-awareness. They keep people from asking questions about sex, and communicating with their partners. They discourage experimentation. They blur the lines between consensual sex and rape by framing all sex as an undifferentiated mass of ‘bad.’"
"Part of growth is learning to create inner peace without being dependent upon things turning out a certain way or needing people to respond to you in a specific way. You want to create it as something you ARE and be able to give and share it with others. YOU become the center, radiating your soul’s light outward, rather than reacting, or waiting for situations, relationships, and events in your life to be arranged in such a way that you have peace."
